To know someone

We all make judgments, it’s human nature. I don’t view making a judgment about someone or something as wrong. For example, you are eating something; you may like it or dislike it even before you tasted it therefore that is a judgment. Same thing goes for a movie, books, everything basically, we have a reaction and that reaction is a judgment, whether true or false is another story. But to say don’t judge ie it’s wrong to judge, I believe is rather futile, because as human beings we will always make judgments on anything and everything. Someone reads this blog, they will make judgment, someone see’s how I look or dress, talk, or write, they will make a judgment almost immediately, thus judging is just part of who we are as a species. And I don’t find anything wrong with that, so instead of saying don’t judge (which is futile, because people will judge almost automatically), I think it’s better to say do not praise, condemn or form a solid stance on something or someone you know only superficially. To do this is what is wrong, and not the judging (in other words forming an opinion) that is wrong. The following account of Umar ibn al-Khattab RA, the second ruler of the Muslim Nation speaks volumes on what it really means to know someone and captures what I am trying to convey.
A man came to Umar ibn al-Khattab and spoke in praise of another. Umar asked him: “Are you his nearest neighbor such that you know his goings and his comings?”


“Have you been his companion on a journey so that you could see evidence of his good character?”


“Have you had dealings with him involving dinars and dirhams [money] which would indicate the piety of the man?”


“I think you saw him standing in the mosque muttering the Quran and moving his head up and down?”


“Go, for you do not know him…”

And to the man in question, Umar said, “Go and bring me someone who knows you.”


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